One day, Someone come and ask you, "Help me get XYZ," and you go "Eh..." but you do not know how to say no. No reasons are good enough and no excuses seem fitting without hurting this person somewhat. Then you know that is your family member.
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One day, Someone ask you to go for a dinner. You have some work to do, or maybe you would like to meet Someone else. But you cannot find excuses to turn down the dinner. Then you know this person is your family member.
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Someone told you that you should do XYZ for Sometwo. And Sometwo has given you XYZ before and so its time to repay. Although you know you didn't ask for XYZ when it was given to you, and you have to accept for politeness. You cannot say no. Then you know the both someone and Sometwo are your family members.
Tuesday, June 19, 2007
Wednesday, June 13, 2007
After another retreat
Meditation retreats are the best things I have found in life. Ever since I was conned to one, by a glibblish friend, I have never stopped in any year.
In a retreat, the mind meditates most of the time, except during sleep, which you have no control. There are sittings 30-40mins each. There are also yoga, walking, running, prostrating, dining, and personal time. While awake, a person is ever mindful of his actions. When a person tries to be mindful, that's when the strength of his random and uncontrollable thoughts stream becomes apparent. We are so used to thinking is some ways that we cannot stop the thoughts from moving in those directions. It takes approximately 3 days to calm down and let go of those before we can even start meditating in relative peace. In retreats the objective is to do deeper into mindfulness and to attempt deepening our wisdom.
This retreat was so timely. I try to meditate everyday. But truthfully, I had been combating thoughts for a long time. At times, I have forgotten the sound of breathing, feeling of the wind, and warmth of my body. Like Frodo in LOTR, he has forgotten all that is in the shire, and only the ring and him in darkness. Excessive work has similar effects as the ring.
Now, I have enough energy to redirect my life to the balance. Work-life hanging in the balance, each playing a part in spiritual development.
In a retreat, the mind meditates most of the time, except during sleep, which you have no control. There are sittings 30-40mins each. There are also yoga, walking, running, prostrating, dining, and personal time. While awake, a person is ever mindful of his actions. When a person tries to be mindful, that's when the strength of his random and uncontrollable thoughts stream becomes apparent. We are so used to thinking is some ways that we cannot stop the thoughts from moving in those directions. It takes approximately 3 days to calm down and let go of those before we can even start meditating in relative peace. In retreats the objective is to do deeper into mindfulness and to attempt deepening our wisdom.
This retreat was so timely. I try to meditate everyday. But truthfully, I had been combating thoughts for a long time. At times, I have forgotten the sound of breathing, feeling of the wind, and warmth of my body. Like Frodo in LOTR, he has forgotten all that is in the shire, and only the ring and him in darkness. Excessive work has similar effects as the ring.
Now, I have enough energy to redirect my life to the balance. Work-life hanging in the balance, each playing a part in spiritual development.
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