As a relationship develops, many activities develop into protocols. You go shopping, dine, and make calls automatically without much thoughts. Before your love becomes stale and goal-less, consider what it means to truely love a woman.
The next chance you get to spend time with a woman you love, be it only 5 minutes, look into her eyes. If you have been together for many years, she probably would not notice it at first. Look long enough and she would notice your gaze. She would ask why. But you do not have to answer. Put away your work, complains, interests, and just put unwavering attention on her. Capture her every wink, hair lines, and every contours on her face. Observe how she moves and talks. Listen to how she sound. Look until her images enter your consciousness. You can feel her in your skin, your flesh, and your pulse. You become at peace with her. Time stops, and the world becomes less important. At that instance, both you and she becomes one, and becomes one with the world. When this happen, it does not matter if there are things both of you can do, or things you can talk about. These are unimportant. Every touch, every step, and every moment becomes sufficient by itself. Even if on a phone, both of your remain silent, that is alright. Because you know you truly love this woman.
Sunday, February 26, 2006
Wednesday, February 15, 2006
Relaxing amidst the buzz -- Part 1
We lived in the time of Hunt, Agriculture, Trade, Industrialization, Information, and now Knowledge. Each phase of change is characterized by greater production.
The easiest way to higher productivity is spending more time, working harder. Yet, its also a danger that the more focus we are with work, the more of ourselves as human beings are lost. Lost are our beliefs, emotions, friends, family, and maybe our goals we set out to be.
Relaxing amidst the buzz is becoming an important life tool. Yoga, exercise, meditation are all some of the things we can learn. But still having work-relaxing separation can never be fully ideal, because our sense get tense and relax is successive iterations. In Chinese medicine, stability leads to better wellbeing.
The trick, I believed, is to achieve a state of mind that we are relaxed even when we work. We work as the way we would live. This way work-relax(life) separation would not exist. We take things easy and treat our colleagues as friends, friends as colleagues, work as life, life as work, meetings as social, and social as meetings.
To be continue...
The easiest way to higher productivity is spending more time, working harder. Yet, its also a danger that the more focus we are with work, the more of ourselves as human beings are lost. Lost are our beliefs, emotions, friends, family, and maybe our goals we set out to be.
Relaxing amidst the buzz is becoming an important life tool. Yoga, exercise, meditation are all some of the things we can learn. But still having work-relaxing separation can never be fully ideal, because our sense get tense and relax is successive iterations. In Chinese medicine, stability leads to better wellbeing.
The trick, I believed, is to achieve a state of mind that we are relaxed even when we work. We work as the way we would live. This way work-relax(life) separation would not exist. We take things easy and treat our colleagues as friends, friends as colleagues, work as life, life as work, meetings as social, and social as meetings.
To be continue...
Thursday, February 09, 2006
Making a Productive Nation
I watched as a Buddhist monk gave counsel to young man. The young man quitted Polytechnic two years ago and was soon conscripted into the army. His army term is ending soon and he is interviewing for a prison job.
The Buddhist monk advised him not to take up the prison job. Reasons being: 1. The prison is a place full of anger and hatred, 2. He is not someone who can handle such an environment, and 3. For his family sake, he should pursue the path of the Polytechnic or University and later joining as a prison superintendant.
Although the Buddhist monk does not receive a salary for giving this counsel, what he did is important to the productivity of Singapore. If the young man did change his mind, pursue University, and graduated in 4-6 years time, he would be at least 3 times more productive than he would be today, in terms of goods and services he can render.
I need to chew on this more a long time, reflecting on how everyone, from the begger and hawker to CEOs, can change the future of our nation.
The Buddhist monk advised him not to take up the prison job. Reasons being: 1. The prison is a place full of anger and hatred, 2. He is not someone who can handle such an environment, and 3. For his family sake, he should pursue the path of the Polytechnic or University and later joining as a prison superintendant.
Although the Buddhist monk does not receive a salary for giving this counsel, what he did is important to the productivity of Singapore. If the young man did change his mind, pursue University, and graduated in 4-6 years time, he would be at least 3 times more productive than he would be today, in terms of goods and services he can render.
I need to chew on this more a long time, reflecting on how everyone, from the begger and hawker to CEOs, can change the future of our nation.
More tired than normal.
These few days, I felt more tired at night than normal. Monday evening, I attempted to do an interview with a ex-school mate now working in the industry. Its very difficult to concentrate. Thoughts doesn't hold together very long, but nonetheless, I am grateful I got to understand the industry better.
Fatigue is a strange thing. It does not really add up by the hours you sleep, or physical activities. (I hardly move when I work) I read that the human channels a lot of energy to the brain, so the amount of thinking matters too. Maybe my mind is more scattered and unfocused these two weeks.
Should meditate more.
Fatigue is a strange thing. It does not really add up by the hours you sleep, or physical activities. (I hardly move when I work) I read that the human channels a lot of energy to the brain, so the amount of thinking matters too. Maybe my mind is more scattered and unfocused these two weeks.
Should meditate more.
Friday, February 03, 2006
Know Thyself
I saw Jet Lee's 'last' movie on Huo Yuan Jia. I think it is a very touching CHINESE movie. It awaken the pride of the yellow skin.
At the end of the movie, Jet Lee told the Japanese martial art master, "The greatest enemy is thyself, and the purpose of martial art is to know thyself." I agree.
If you think deeply, life can be a meaningless affair. You will die the way you were born, and nothing can be taken away. Many things such as schooling, working, marrying, child rearing, sickness, and dying are predictable, and irreversible. We work for our desires, yet we are destined to lose it all.
Yet, all these are externalities. Internally, there is something normally unspoken, that is who we are. We may be fighting for a chance to career advance, and its driven by a desire to succeed. We succeed and become happy, or fail to be disappointed, or do we need to? Overcome our own desire, and we are free to succeed for others. Care not of ourselves, and we became the larger than life. We live in everyone around us.
Before that, however, we need to understand ourselves, penetrate our desires, and liberate them. Fight like Jet Lee as we work, and begin our cultivation from daily life.
At the end of the movie, Jet Lee told the Japanese martial art master, "The greatest enemy is thyself, and the purpose of martial art is to know thyself." I agree.
If you think deeply, life can be a meaningless affair. You will die the way you were born, and nothing can be taken away. Many things such as schooling, working, marrying, child rearing, sickness, and dying are predictable, and irreversible. We work for our desires, yet we are destined to lose it all.
Yet, all these are externalities. Internally, there is something normally unspoken, that is who we are. We may be fighting for a chance to career advance, and its driven by a desire to succeed. We succeed and become happy, or fail to be disappointed, or do we need to? Overcome our own desire, and we are free to succeed for others. Care not of ourselves, and we became the larger than life. We live in everyone around us.
Before that, however, we need to understand ourselves, penetrate our desires, and liberate them. Fight like Jet Lee as we work, and begin our cultivation from daily life.
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